Had I not married a chef …. I would have totally married a farmer.
Yesterday, I finished my final Christmas exams. A day earlier, I received a note from one of my lecturers – he has been my teacher for five years now – and he was alerting me to the fact that I was finished with exams – for-ever!
In January, semester 2 brings all project-based journalistic work to the forefront. Right now I am gearing up to work on a radio documentary, learn how to shoot digital film for the internet, write a 15000 word thesis, and find a work placement … … pretty exciting few months ahead, that is for sure!
As a little reward to myself, I held off on reading a new book I recently purchased – actually I purchased two of them but my Mother commandeered one immediately citing she had just the friend that had to read it. Go on Mother.
The author, Lorna Sixsmith, is one heck of a gal. A self described ‘fair weather farmerette’, she makes this farming business it all sound so glamourous. NOT.
I love the sound of Lorna’s voice and her laughter is ringing in my ears. You can listen to her having a chat about her book and farming in general with Ryan Tubridy on 2fm – right here.
I don’t think it was her intention to draft a helpful manual on ‘how to nab and marry a farmer’ – I think her goal was to write a witty guide to the realities of living the life of a farmers wife, and she did just that. I know Lorna personally – and I can have seen her on her farm helping her husband Brian with the cattle and carrying buckets of milk and helping stand in gaps to prevent a stampeded into the wrong field.
You will also be able to see her do all of this because her style of writing is so engaging, you will get sucked right in to the life of a farmers wife. You will probably even begin to day-dream a little bit about selling your townhouse and moving to the country to take advantage of all that fresh air and green spaces.
Ha! Lorna will keep you on your toes with a reality check of mud, muck, slurry and explain terminology like ‘yoke’ and ‘locked up’ and ‘synchronising heifers’ . . .
This is a brilliant guide, to becoming a farmers wife, or even if you want to branch out an do a bit of farming yourself.
Lorna doesn’t sugar coat it … she writes quite tongue-in-cheek so by the time you get to the end of her book, if you are leaning towards marrying a farmer yourself, you will have a very clear understanding of what it is like to live and work on a farm in Ireland today.
I see nothing wrong in trading in the high heels for the wellies to be honest – I’d do it all for love, and I can tell that this is the most important thing in Lorna’s life – the love she and her farmer (Brian) share.
They have a lovely life, but they both work incredibly hard and are tied to the farm and the animals and the weather and the many many different types of rain we have in Ireland that has a massive effect on farming. But funny thing is, Lorna did not marry a farmer. Granted they both grew up on farms, but then they moved away (to the UK) and finished up their educations – her farmer going all the way to the PhD level, only to come back, with a baby in tow, to take over Lorna’s family farm.
I do not think they were able to stay away once the first child showed up – and now they have two gorgeous kids (Will and Kate).
We fell into the same trap ourselves. All was well and good in the USA – trucking along, living a grand old existence not really pining for ‘home’ because we were very much AT HOME, then BAM – first kid shows up and you start feeling a little blue that they might not never really get to know their cousins; and I have fabulous cousins – so this was important. Second baby shows up and double BAM – all of a sudden you are packing the whole fam-damily up into shipping container and headed home to the little green island.
But I digress …
This is a love story guys. Not the kind that is going to make you well up with buckets of tears, more the kind of story you hope to see turned into a movie some day. It has that ‘James Herriot – All Creatures Great and small’ feel to it. Honest, open, and what is so important these days – authentic.
Would you Marry a Farmer by Lorna Sixsmith is a no-frills representation of farm, family and married life today in Ireland and I love it!
It is also a great reminder, for those of you out there getting ready to take a swing at your maybe-not-so-doting partner, that marriage is hard bloody work. The art of compromise is vital when you are living and working with someone 24-7 and Lorna brings the right amount of humour to the story, which is always a nice reminder – to keep laughter in the relationship.
Lorna has been kind enough to give us an extra copy of her book ‘Would you marry a farmer ‘ as a giveaway.
I am picking the winner on Saturday (14th Dec) so you might even get this in the post (if in Ireland) by Christmas if you win!
So here – answer her question in the comment box below in order to be eligible for a win:
‘Would you Marry a Farmer’ … and I want a few reasons why or why not.
Those are all the WiseWords I have for today.
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